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I just unfriended my youngest brother on Facebook. He's spent pretty much his entire life sniping at me, constantly making mean, nasty, personal and hurtful comments. (He called me FatAss through my last two years of high school.) Anyone who's read his comments on my FB probably knows what I mean. It's funny, but my sister calls me dipshit all the time, and I don't find it offensive. But then, there is no petty meanness in Terry. There is nothing else, apparently, in Michael. At least not for me - he's stayed married to a very nice lady for a long time, so he must show her another side that he never showed me. Anyway, I got tired of it, and I thought, "Yeah, he's your brother, but life's too short to put up with this negative shit." So I unfriended him. And I don't feel guilty at all!

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I'm glad you unfriended him, and I'm glad you don't feel guilty. As you may recall, I "unfriended" my brother in real life over ten years ago, and I've never regretted it. He's a negative, toxic person, and I don't need or want him in my life. After 42 years of walking on eggshells, putting up with his explosive personality, and bending over backwards to please him, he pushed me too hard, and that was it. Now, after all this time, we have a civil relationship; we exchange pleasantries at family funerals, and wave when we see each other (well, sometimes, depending on his mood); but we are not in any way part of each other's lives, and that's the way I want it. As you say, life's too short.
I knew you would understand! I remember when you "unfriended" your brother, and I thought that was a great idea. No person who is toxic should be kept in our lives. That may sound heartless to some, but I call it sensible and healthy. Plus it gives you more time and energy to spend on those who deserve it.